“I’m six-foot-five and over two-hundred- some-odd pounds. You don’t get to see a lot of my body type in fashion. I really loved that in this shoot we got to push the envelope of what types of bodies fit in the world of high fashion and representation.”
Winston Duke ph. by Carlos Serrao for Esquire Magazine (2019)
watching an actress in full makeup pretend to wash her face and then pat dry her still fully contoured cheeks for an acne wash commercial
when i was 13 i had no idea what make up looked like on. media literacy is important
I especially like the makeup remover ads where she takes off her lipstick, to reveal lighter lipstick underneath.
or the commercials for razors with women shaving their already baby smooth, waxed legs
This is such a surreal, dystopian thing about our culture. We literally treat the natural female body like its obscene. No wonder girls grow up with so much self loathing when they feel as if their own skin is incorrect.
“Years ago a friend of mine had a dream about a strange invention; a staircase you could descend deep underground, in which you heard recordings of all the things anyone had ever said about you, both good and bad. The catch was, you had to pass through all the worst things people had said before you could get to the highest compliments at the very bottom. There is no way I would ever make it more than two and a half steps down such a staircase, but I understand its terrible logic: if we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known.”
If Glee was still airing they would’ve done an episode where Kurt becomes a Drag Queen but gets rejected from RuPaul’s Drag Race so they cheer him up by doing a mash-up of Purse First and Thank U, Next
“A long-term study of children
raised by lesbians found that these children were less likely
to suffer from physical and sexual abuse than were their peers
who were raised by heterosexuals. This is thought to be due to
the absence of adult heterosexual men in the households (Gartrell,
Bos, & Goldberg, 2010). Girls raised by
lesbians tend to have higher self-esteem, show more maturity
and tolerance than their peers, and are older when they have
their first heterosexual contact (Gartrell et al., 2005, 2010). Children
raised by same-sex parents seem to be less constrained by
traditional gender roles; boys are less aggressive, and girls are
more inclined to consider nontraditional careers, such as doctor,
lawyer, or engineer (Gartrell et al., 2005; Stacey & Biblarz,
2001). Over the course of more than 20 years, scientists studied
the psychological adjustment of 78 teenagers who were raised by lesbian mothers. Compared to age-matched counterparts raised
by heterosexual parents, these adolescents were rated higher
in social, academic, and total competence, and lower in social
problems, rule-breaking, aggression, and externalizing problem
behavior (Gartrell & Bos, 2010).
There are fewer studies of children raised by two men, but gay
fathers are more likely than straight fathers to put their children
before their career, to make big changes in their lives to accommodate
a child, and to strengthen bonds with their extended families
after becoming fathers (Bergman, Rubio, Green, & Padrone,
2010).” ~ Martha Rosenthal, Human Sexuality: From Cells to Society, p.247.
“having gay parents will harm children”
I love that this is cited and sourced ahhhh. Actual researched support! So good.
unpopular opinion: any infographic that does the whole “this meal of consisting entirely of lettuce and apples is way cheaper than a Big Mac, checkmate poor people” thing must use the total price, rather than price per serving.
none of this “well a thing of cinnamon is $8 and each has 200 grams so a gram is like $0.4 and divided by four it’s really only $0.1 per serving.” no. spices cost money. if I have to buy a new spice, that’s more money. how much is one canister? that’s the price.
did I have to buy a new pot for this? how much did that cost?
do I need multiple pots? is there complex timing? do I need to set aside an hour to prep? all that costs money.
when you get fast food, the total price is right there. we can talk about how that total price is artificially deflated due to the exploitation of labor and the industrialization of food, but the fact remains that a ten-piece chicken nuggets meal at burger king is like $6, and making them yourself costs a lot in buying a whole thing of chicken plus flour plus eggs plus spices plus frying oil (not even counting that a meal comes with a side and a drink).
(incidentally, this is an issue with any advice that calls for buying things in bulk because it’s cheaper overall. yes, it is objectively cheaper in the long run to buy the $15 thing of toilet paper at $1/roll than it is to buy the $10 thing of toilet paper for $1.50/roll. but when you only have $10, then you’re getting the $10 one, because that’s what’s cheaper to you.)
THANK YOU I’VE MADE THIS ARGUMENT SO MANY TIMES
I just get so mad when people are like “it’s cheaper to eat healthy food instead of fast food” and then list the cost of one ingredient as if that equals an entire meal. And then ignore all the necessary cooking/prep work needed. It’s dishonest and ridiculous.
in therapy my therapist and i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to, on a romantic and platonic level. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said “you named things that you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are” and y'all..my mind was blown that’s gonna stick with me forever like she then proceed to tell me actual innate qualities about myself that she liked and thought anyone else would like as well and i hadn’t even considered those because like she said i was focused on things i could do outwardly to attract and maintain connections rather than who i was as a person..goddamn!!! thats tea!!!
With this in mind, this also makes me think of the ways people describe us. When people say the reasons that they love/like you or describe you as a person, are they only naming ways that you serve them? Are they equating your worth with how much you do for them?
ex. “You’re such a good listener. You’re so generous, you’re so compassionate. You’re always there for me. You always hold me down. You’re reliable”
vs.
“You’re so funny! You’re very vibrant. You’re creative, passionate, and intelligent. You’re optimistic. You’re so talented at ____” , etc. I think that’s very telling.
This FUCKED relationships up too because once this hit me, I realized people can just be in love with the way you make them feel instead of who you actually are. ALWAYS pay attention to the last little “vs” but there because it IS super telling
